Defederating from Hexbear must be one of the least controversial things a Lemmy admin could do.
Federating with Hexbear is the more contentious position. Knowing what I know now, I would not consider using an instance that is federated with Hexbear.
Why? It’s pretty easy to ignore them, and you’re only impacted if they happen to join communities you frequent. It turns out my interests and their interests have very little overlap…
Having seen how they acted before my instance defederated with them, I disagree. They’re intentionally disruptive and not easy to ignore when they constantly post oversized emojis, brigade threads, and harass users who dare disagree with them. They’re not federating with servers to be nice, they’re federating with servers to “dunk”. They’ve explicitly said so themselves.