I’m not being idealistic, you are. That’s idealism, it’s just extremely mediocre. You’re suffering from the belief that you can make incremental progress when you can’t. For example, if you’re American, check your rights with regards to family planning. How’s that going?
The problem is that you’re not radical enough, and the future now can only be radical, there is no more room for “middle of the road” incrementalism.
Israel has no sober friends.