(doesn’t matter whether it’s lemmy.world, lemmy.ml, or anything else)

I used to visit egg_irl, traa, ftm, mtf, asktransgender, and transpassing all the time, and it really helped me discover and embrace my agender identity. Reddit in general’s very good for this. When I saw the equivalents of many popular Reddit communities pop up on the community list of the Lemmyverse with multiple thousand subscribers, I was thinking to myself, “hey, you know, maybe this isn’t all that bad, we’ll show Reddit we can still survive post-API updates.”

But then I tried looking for LGBTQ spaces as warm and cozy as the ones I enjoyed so much back on Reddit (and I wasn’t even necessarily looking for 1:1 correspondences)… and to my horror, I was shocked to discover that not a single one of them was very active. It seems that the most active one is at !lgbtq_plus@beehaw.org, but even that only has 500 or so subscribers and can often go days without seeing new posts. It feels really sad compared to the hustle and bustle of what I used to see.

Are we really screwed? Have the clowns on Reddit… won? This is going to sound completely awkward, but I’ve actually been losing real sleep over this. My household is unfortunately not queer-affirming, which means the internet has been one of the only places in my life I can express my true self. We already lost Twitter, and now we’ve pretty much all but lost Reddit too.

Mods or fired mods of subs like egg_irl on Reddit: if you’re reading this, could you please provide links to Lemmy instances on your sub descriptions or something so that even if people want to leave Reddit, they’ll know where to go and won’t disperse?