I just got through the first season of the show and they actually tackle that lie. Mostly through the eyes of the commander’s wife. As the men expect her, and all women, to give up her position of influence without rancor and still be a loyal member of the movement. The men are completely mystified about any reluctance to do so.

Any time someone says something like, “I would strip you of your rights, but we can still be friends”, they’re just buying your passivity until they can do it. And after it’s done they won’t recognize any grievance with it because to them you silently consented to it.