Thats the big problem i currently have. The game sub i was part of is the place where i always got help solving my problems quickly and it's the only place to have any meanigful conversation about the game.
Now i can't do that anymore and since im perma banned on reddit i can't take part in health and mental health subs i was part of that were the only place to get support or have conversations regarding all my health problems :/
Yep, it seems unreasonably harsh to ban someone over really minor stuff or sometimes even because mod misunderstands ur comment. Sure i get it if it's some really vile or violent stuff, harrasment or something, but i did not do any of those things.
Like you said, it seems like it's the nuclear option right away for even the minor stuff.