ADHD advocate, former certified peer recovery specialist (specializing in suicide ideation when comorbid with neurodivergence.)
I don't usually pay attention to whichever instance I've drifted into from all, so if you see me in a weird place, that's why!
Love this.
And I got here before the pizzacake hateclub? Will wonders never cease.
I figured you weren't! And I don't blame you for jumping to someone's defense. We need more people like that, so thanks.
You're entitled to your feelings. Doesn't bother me one bit.
I can remember what I've seen and share my opinions on it, same as anybody else. I wouldn't call that an "unhealthy hangup" so much as "remembering why you don't care for someone."
Now, could I continue to make this case? Sure. Could I provide evidence? Absolutely. But I am not going to hyperfocus on this, I'm not interested in running a crusade, and I don't owe anybody here anything.
I think that would be unhealthy.
Besides, several people here have gone forth with the impression to let someone have a fresh start. That's a valid way to want to live. I can't do that, but I won't try and step on other people trying to believe in the good in people.
If you think I'm an asshole for saying someone has a reputation that they earned, that's fine. If you think I'm an asshole for saying I think sharing an instance with them is cringe, that's fine, too. I don't regret making an attempt at finding someone else saying something I would say, and sharing that, because it wastes as little of my time on an issue as possible.
The more I dig in on something, the higher the risk of hyperfixation on it, and there is nothing to be gained here by anyone if I hyperfixate on why I dislike someone.
I'm trying to engage in this discussion, but do it as lightly as possible, which is why I'm only replying to one reply I get at a time in this thread and move on. (I responded to yours this time. I'll be ignoring all others here for the rest of the night.)
I don't enjoy associating with people who admit that they intentionally antagonize other people so they get in trouble. That really, really, really sticks in my craw. Not understanding social norms or the billions of things that aren't said in rules, or how some folks can violate things that are and others can't, is a massive noose around the neck of people who are neurologically atypical, so someone claiming they do those things but 'only' against people they deem deserve it is a massive problem for me.
Welp, I just got home from work, and I had a rough day, so I can't stop myself from replying. I'll do just this one and log off the fediverse for the night.
If you look at the profile of the user you're replying to, at the top you'll see they made themselves a banner showing off how other people despise them. This could be a good thing if the people they were bragging about were like... nazis. But this individual has a reputation and they really, really earned it.
If you search 'Universal Monk' on the fediverse, you'll get this at the top, "I'm Calling For the Fediverse to Ban Universal Monk." It does a deep dive of their other accounts. A lot of what they're doing in this thread is claiming that they're super open and honest about who they are (and they're on an account they've curated to not be such a douche canoe) which means you have to look at the other accounts to see what the deal is.
Here's a link to a call to action on slrpnk calling to ban UM. The post isn't interesting- the comments are. And after seeing how people make a game out of figuring out the rules of a place specifically so they can be as obnoxious as possible without copping a ban, seeing this behavior in the wild and recognizing it for what it is, sets my teeth on edge. (This is where I would move to the section to talk about evidence of puppetry and such, but I'm choosing not to hyperfocus on this.)
ETA: Okay I couldn't help myself. I added a bit in a paragraph above, but here is a fantastic bit. This is a comment from auk. It's under the second link. I'm copy and pasting the relevant bit here. (Auk is speaking to UM.)
You did know you were being obnoxious previously, and refused to stop doing it until it escalated to an account ban, and then made some new accounts and started looking for new places to do it.
I think admins and mods those new places can make the decision about whether that is ban evasion, or whether they want to let you do this all again until you inevitably get banned again sometime later. People have talked with you about why what you’re doing is a problem. Why they would pick that second option is something of a mystery to me, but I’ll leave it up to them. I’m just relaying the information.
It would be a different story if you were just misunderstanding something, and completely open to a conversation about why you keep getting banned and what you can do differently, but you’re clearly more interested in figuring out the details of the rules so you can find ways around them and keep doing your same thing.
I know. Everytime I see they made a dbzer0 alt I cringe but nothing I can do.
She's screaming, with her head in the leopard's mouth, "But I can be useful!"
I just watched a woman in emergency management give a class in a room with busted A/C while she was experiencing a menopause hot flash that had her hair soaked with sweat.
Sick to death of arguments that because women have feelings, they can't be as or more capable. She might have sweat on every surface of her body, but that woman has ice in her veins.
This was my instinct with that submarine fiasco. Calls a man he's never seen or talked to a pedophile? First thing? Gotta be a reason that word was in his mind.
My favorite move there when someone points out thing that contradict is to say, "Yes. That's what you were told." Imply there's something mysterious to uncover about why those facts don't gel.
Alternatively: "I'm giving you the real history. That's not what your character knows to be true!"
Love the petty bullshit of all your replies to me telling you off, which were correct, including links to the same comment where someone says I could've made my point clearer.
Congrats. You found one person who says your reading comprehension might be understandable, out of the entirety of the rest of the commenters here, who all tell you to stop with your bullshit crusade.... and your reaction is to passive-aggressively try and shoehorn their one comment into every single other thing you reply to me with.
I'm going to tell you, even though you refuse to listen- "engagement" isn't a metric of success. If 300 people tell you to shut up, that isn't 300 new friends. That's "you are wrong," writ large. And since you don't understand this either, on any of these other posts you make- people stopping replying to you also doesn't somehow make your points true. It just means you're more exhausting than entertaining.
This is to just to say, I'm done here. I'm going to go back to blissfully ignoring you until your next bullshit move to try and defend Leni, at which point I'll probably link whatever new folks are stumbling on your ongoing nonsense to this thread. Or any others. Goodbye. Enjoy your meaningless reply. I won't be answering it.
It is way, way past my bedtime, and my meds wore off, so out of curiosity I clicked through to the link on Reddit again and...
Yeah there's no way that the user who submitted this to 'court' isn't the same fucking person. I'm going to quote a post they made to /r/Lemmy. I don't recommend trying to read it, but if you do... yeah they're all the same person. I'm done playing nice about it. See if this doesn't read in the exact same terrible, unreadable way:
"For those of you who don't know, there was an act of terror that was on the news a few days ago where the perpetrator happened to be a Lemmy World mod, and everyone is talking about it due to this (and then another act of terror that happened in the same span of time where the perpetrator wasn't a mod but where the guy expressed support for a certain guy Lemmy loves loud and clear, which one might say makes site morals look bad). The site has been known to ban anyone who supports Musk's rhetoric as well as anyone who is registered with KF as many will always be willing to being up for ages, but what about this new evolving rhetoric? Trump is in office and just barely saved Tiktok.
On behalf of a few instances, I have been asked if you all might defederate Lemmy World, even though I have been hesitant until now to even bring it up. To me at least, I'm sure most people are going to say "apologists > murderers" as would make sense."
First of all, no one is asking this individual to represent their instance, let alone a few instances. Second, the top comment to that is literally identical to the top comments on almost everything this person writes:
"I'm confused as what you're trying to say. I tried to follow the links, but that didn't make it clearer, either."
Godspeed, /u/triangularRectum420. You represent us all today.
And CraigOhMyEggo copped a ban from Santabot on slrpnk for being an alt of Leni. That's enough for me.
I don't care about an accusation made in the past. I was responding to you denying an accusation that wasn't made in this post. You were denying it without accusation here. You can't, and shouldn't, expect the readers in this thread to be aware of any conversations you've had in the past, and if you're going to defend against those, it should either be made clear that they weren't made here, or you should defend against those comments where they were made.
Because, in absence of that claim here, as I said, you're defending against an accusation that wasn't made here.
Eta: You copped a ban from Santa on slrpnk.net for being an alt of CallMeLeni, so that uh... seems to lend it some credence.
I love popcorn as much as anybody, so normally I'd launch into a retelling of the whole sordid tale, but the problem with this drama is that it's not fun to read. Because the CallMeLeni person, and also the one who was leading the crusade against them, can't write.
That's not like, a cute joke. I've never, in my long and storied life, seen people who have such poor writing skills. Many times, people have commented to tell these folks that their writing is unreadable, and every time, the response is either to defend it, or to get weirdly specific about the complaints being made.
So instead of bothering with the whole thing, I found the post where I first read CallMeLeni posting something, and I'm linking it here. I didn't bother carrying over the links they put in the comment. And I'm going to paste a quote, so you can see why I don't recommend going for it. I can't warn you enough that this isn't worth your time.
::: And for extra protection, I've spoiler'd it. Read it if you want but you are missing out on nothing.
The implication here is false, at least by my definition of the word “false”, and he even alluded to that after it began to be discussed elaborately, albeit before using an appeal to the masses (story of my life) and say “most people seem to understand”, which ignores consensus of me and the aforementioned Blaze (as much as the “the truth we all wanted to speak” remark ignores not everyone had that issue). Notice how I responded with “I can spot rules broken by the other person’s thread more easily than I can spot rules broken by mine” and got only thumbs down for it and no responses, yet when I actually dissected the rules piece by piece in front of him to point out that any rule I supposedly broke wasn’t there, which even the person who recommended I make the discussion in the first place (the aforementioned Blaze) agreed was a “fair point to be honest”, the mod then delved into the concept of “unspoken rules” as an excuse for himself and said he didn’t want to “rules-lawyer”, which not only disproves what he said about “specific posting guidelines” being “in the sidebar” that supposedly explained what I did wrong, but proved a point I commonly mention about people in different places including here always being uncritical and unwilling to see things for themselves and just taking peoples’ word for things (and about that, to respond to Cypher’s last reply, intellectual =/= intelligent). A part of that is it also suggests, by extension, that the quantity of thumbs down you garner is unreliable as consistently meaning anything, unless the rule is actually to apply gladiator logic and say a thumbs down signals mercy, as indicated by the very Roman-esque culture around here. I guess all this time, I was being praised and didn’t realize it? :::
This is fucking hysterical. You realize the person you're replying to didn't say you were Call Me Leni? You denying it without accusation like that is uh... not a great look!
The complaint is regarding a known sock puppeter. Those votes are almost certainly all from the same person. And even if not, then those other accounts who write just like her but only because they 'collaboratively compose their messages' could be doing the upvoting.
Eta: ohhhhh it's this mofo. Let it go, CraigOhMyEggo. We get it. You're a serial Leni defender. But no, and I can't say this loudly and hard enough, getting 8 upvotes on a joke subreddit doesn't show that the whole of the fediverse is wrong for telling Leni to fuck off. And even if somehow this was a good way to make that point, in some crazy universe, the fediverse doesn't hinge on reddit's opinion of anything. Most fediverse folks don't give a shit about redditor's opinion. Or we would be on reddit.
This is a really pathetic attempt to revive the argument for Leni. You need to move on with your life.
I support any woman having access to whatever she needs to manage their menstruation, because they're fucking awful. But I've never personally been a fan of putting anything in there for any extended period. I assume anything we use for this purpose is poison, since science didn't even treat women as people who exist until relatively recently.
All the helmets painted with her markings...