The recent Steam censorship debacle actually sort of opened me up to adult games.

You know that even fantasy sex is a problem to the puritan mind, even mild representations of sex like activities becomes weird. Well in the Western society that is. I found out that some temples in India are finely decorated with more or less explicit scenes. In certain societies sex is seen as an engine. The issue with violence is that it isn't just highly but it's nearly a constant in our western society. Go back to the middle ages, how many people whacked each other in popular imagery. Even recently we have seen more violence than ever. Gore doesn't do much any longer for many adults, but it's supposed to elicit a strong evolutionary reflex of disgust and fear. I feel we've been overexposed to these things, but not others.

beating beats beating

It was wild being raised by my mother who didn't mind if I saw consensual sex, because I should eventually have sex, but restricted all violence because ideally I'll never see violence in person.

I have no idea how good this is a philosophy for raising children. Sample size is too small.

A good H-game with more that 4 hours of content, good porn, and good gameplay are rare finds. Not to mention the pain in the ass of finding the decensor patches or using a non-Steam, non-English site to buy it.

That seems like a fair assessment of the current state of things, but I do want to stress how good Huniepop is as a puzzle game alone. One sparkling jewel in a sea of erotic sliding puzzle and jigsaw crap.

If you removed everything outside the actual gem matching gameplay and soundtrack, I would still play it.

And yeah, I started poking around and saw some of the more ambitious open world projects like you're talking about, and they all looked like abandoned early access. But if they have the technical ability, why not show my character licking some Asari ladyparts in Mass Effect 5? Adults play a shitload of video games too. Make it an optional DLC if you have to.

Last game I played that fit this bill was 7 Sins

This was back in the 2000s and I was super into The Sims. I still think the gameplay holds up well.

Its not graphic with nudity but definitely a adults only game.

Edit:

The entire concept of the game is experiencing the 7 sins. Greed, lust, sloth, anger etc.

Gameplay link

Yeah the exceptions are rare, and then many like HuniePop 1 and 2 or Subverse lean intentionally into overdone slapstick.

(That being said HuniePop I can't recommend enough, easily the best match-3 out there completely ignoring the porn parts)

You may have come across it already but Hardcoded may be in the realm you're thinking? https://store.steampowered.com/app/2693710/HARDCODED/

It's still in development but they've done a ton of work on it to, already, be pretty flashed out game and its development hasn't slowed any over the years.

yeah, there's an inherent problem with that:

in general, people choose adult games explicitly to get off, so putting a bunch of unrelated activities between them and that is not a recipe for success.

or in other words: good gameplay makes for bad porn, and vice versa.

i understand what you are asking for, and the solution for that is modding;

check out loverslab!

the biggest communities (i know of) for this are:

• Skyrim Special Edition
• Fallout 4
• The Sims 4
• RimWorld

all of these have what you're asking for, with varying levels of integration into the main game!

and since it's modded content, you even get to decide how much, and what kind of, adult content there is in your game!

and when i say everything is customizable, i mean everything!

so take a look and have fun ;)

Alicesoft is one of the major dev studios in this exact space, but their games range from having some non-con to outright featuring it. Not for everyone.

Buttknight was a really good arcade scroller shooter. The unlockable scenes weren't interractive, but actually unlocking them was a ton of fun. Short game too.

You will never see 18+ only games that comes close to Cyberpunk or BG3 in scope. Because most retailers won’t stock A/O games, and these publishers still get a significant portion of revenue from these retailers selling physical games. And these games are simply too expensive to make to ignore those retailers.

Man, you're mean. You can't recommend that without at least a warning of the box of tissues that you'll need nearby. You'll be responsible for water stains on desks everywhere.

Flipwitch is a fantastic little Metroidvania that I can't talk to my "normal" gaming friends about.

Oh right, I have actually heard that about Fate. I never played any of the games, but I caught a lot of Unlimited Blade Works when my wife was watching it, and it seemed pretty solid.

I've still got the original visual novels sitting on my backup drive, somewhere. I played through the major first storyline, but hadn't gotten around to UBW and... oh boy, heaven's something? Definitely was a great read, even after starting with the anime.

The music is really good too!

Oh yeah, I saw that one earlier and threw it on my wishlist for later. It looks pretty good. I picked up Scarlet Maiden instead for now, which is also a pixel-based naughty game, but looks to be a roguelite and is supposed to have great gameplay too.

I just finished what exists so far for The Princess Trap last night. I have to recommend holding off on it till it’s finished so you don’t end up in as much despair as me.

Ai, loverslab comes to mind. Used that to kink the hell out of Sims back in the day.

Sims 4 as well. When you download wickedwhims, nisa and basemental drugs and thousands of different animations from different packages, you will never play the vanilla again.

Oh damn I thought this was some "Fuck bitches, smoke trees - Abraham Lincoln" shit, but it's a real quote. Nice.

I personally like Galaxy War's "Let's Get Married!" series, which is two puzzle games. The premise is to advance through dungeons by spending health, keys, and money. Enemies are not just obstacles, they drop money and the route you take through each level will determine what resources you have down the line. The meta game is to keep track of routes, and in future playthroughs, have a more precise plan that accounts for the future. It is very math-based, since there is no RNG. Each action is a tradeoff. It is the same gameplay as DROD RPG and Tower of the Sorcerer. The characters and molestation elements feel similar to Rance, though more good-natured.

The Dungeon of Lulu Farea is the first entry.

Another game of interest is Monster Girl Dreams. While I personally don't care much for the battle fuck system, I very much like the variety of characters and the large amount of dialogue that can be had with them. The game is freeware, and well worth playing if you enjoy lovey-dovey sex with monster girls.

In a similar vein to Lulu Farea, I am interested in Star Knightess Aura. Some resources cannot be replenished during a playthrough, so you need to consider routing. The plot might be interesting, as it is about brainwashing the protagonist. You select what aspects of her personality are altered, changing her one thing at a time. For those who are into corruption, I think it holds promise.

Oh man, CoC is a name I haven't heard in a loooong long time. I think I have a save file and the original flash version hanging around somewhere.

I'm suddenly wondering if horny multiplayer games for couples is already a thing, or if it's an untapped market.

That’s a difficult one. Due to their target audience, a lot of them are more focused on storytelling (usually limited gameplay and more reading along in a choose your own adventure style) for a single player. What you’re describing is a bit of an untapped market, but give F95zone.to a look and you might find something. It’s a site dedicated to collating freely available adult games (with ways to support the authors linked). It’s where a lot of the games OP talks about found their audience.

there’s a stereotype that they’re low quality

Basically this. Why would I want to risk buying a trash perv game when theres stuff like Mass Effect or Baldur's Gate?

It seems less bad to me, I actually have to use my brain a little, idk I get bored using the same content daily, every one in a while I'll use vr, comics, books, or a game, but tbh whenever I start to need something extra like that I just don't jerk off for a day to normalize, don't want to enter the gooner mindset

Same, first hearing about it 😢

One of the best rpg maker games out there in general which is wild

One of the best rpg maker games out there in general which is wild

only games I like count as games!